(Un) When you eat at the refrigerator, pull up a chair

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p.xix Throughout the book, I have used feelings of being "fat" interchangeably with feelings of being incompetent, unattractive, unworthy, out of control, valueless, invisible. Our culture links fatness with an entire world of undesirable qualities, and unfortunately, women struggle with their weight do the same.



p.3 Of course, thereis another option: disengaging from the alluring drama of feeling fat and its attendant swwops of emotion. (Which is not the same as bingeing or giving up.) Feeling fat is like Krazy Glue; it takes a herculean effort to separate from it.

p.4 The problem is that it also cuts us off at the knees. When you feel fat--no matter what you weight--you take a pair of sciessors to your life and cut it down to the size you think it's supposed to be in order for you be loved and accepted.

p.8 I've gained and lost over a thousand pounds in my life. I've been anorexic, sixty pounds overweight, and every point in between. (I've been on all kinds of diet...) .. All of them worked for a week, a month, even a year. And then every single one of them stopped working.
When you feel fat and ugly, the thought of going on a diet is incredibly seductive. You watch those breezy, thin women pull out the waist of their pants on the Jenny Craig ads. Or you read the latest article about "Ten Butt Busters to Blast into Bikinis" and you decide that if only you could blast your butt, everything would be fine. A burst of hope fills you with inspiration, energy, willpower. Soon you will be pulling out the waist of your tight jeans. You're going on a diet!
Don't.